Recently I went to a concert with friends. The concert was a lot of fun, music was amazing and people were pretty decent.

I stupidly took something with that needed to be returned to my car. on my way back to the concert, I heard the following comments “Look at her ass” and “Look at those saddlebags” oh and also, “Those thighs do not need to be on display like that”. I did not turn around to see who they were talking to, but considering I was the only person directly ahead of them, I figured it was about me.

For a moment, I got my feelings hurt and almost withdrew into myself. I decided just was not worth it. I have worked hard to get to where I am. I feel good about myself. I know I still have weight to lose, but what in the world makes them think they are allowed to comment on my body.

When did it become OK to comment on people and they way they look? I really don’t understand why they felt OK to make me feel so little when I’ve worked so very hard to get to where I am.

Shortly thereafter, Valerie Bertonelli posted a video on Instagram in response to a person that posted saying she needs to lose weight. I just honestly don’t get why it is OK for us to judge.

Nobody knows what I deal with on a daily basis regarding my weight loss journey. Nobody knows what Valerie Bertonelli goes through in her life. Why is it ok to assume because somebody isn’t a size 2, 4, 6 that we can add to that negative headspace?

My encounter has obviously really affected me as it is 3 weeks and the words are still swirling around my head. I keep wondering if I’m doing everything I can. I keep wondering what else I can do to lose that extra weight I need to. And honestly, I cannot tell you how many times I have wanted to grab that bag of chips, that chocolate bar or have that frozen coffee. There are many times I find myself slipping back into old habits of not eating and then binging. I have to continually remind myself that I need to eat and workout to lose weight . Every day is a new day, every meal is a new opportunity.

To those that feel it is OK to comment on how we look, all I can say is, shove your nose back into your own business. Clean your own glass houses before you dare come and poke your nose into mine.

I have worked hard to get to where I am, I will continue to work hard and everybody’s opinion stinks.

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